Why It’s Hard to Agree With My Husband

How to learn to Get Along

I’m joining Five Minute Friday just to write for 5 minutes on a word. Today’s word is AGREE.


Setting the timer: GO

I don’t always agree with my husband. We have been married for 46 years and we are still happily married. It’s not because I always agree with him. On the contrary I am probably the hardest person to live with. We are probably still together because he has patience in dealing with me.

I tend to jump at things before I can think them through.

I used to get totally angry at him when he said something I didn’t understand or didn’t agree with.

But – there is a bright side here. I am learning. Here are 5 things I am learning through my study of God’s Word.

Five Ways to Work Through Agreement

  1. If I start the day with study and writing my prayers to God – and listening to Him, I am better to prepared not to fall into the pit.
  2. Right now I am studying Proverbs in an online study group I lead. This practice is helping me watch what I say – because it’s a daily reminder.
  3. I am calmer overall. As I have grown closer to God I listen to Him more than I listen to myself. That’s a very important part of my peace.
  4. I know that to agree is not always possible. But to listen to his side is possible. I’m learning to bite my tongue and try to hear the other side.
  5. I’ve seen my anger in the past. I’ve seen how I like to control. Knowing these sins helps me learn to tread more carefully as I know what triggers my reactions. SELF.

Time’s Up.. 5 minutes goes quickly.

Here is a selection of wisdom that God has shown me this month on my words and my tongue.





agreeDo you have trouble being agreeable? Can you see ways to curb your tongue? Can you find a way to negotiate between you and someone else?

One more thought. I always need to agree with God and what I hear from Him. There is no way I want to disagree with what He says.

A few other thoughts on this matter and why it’s hard to agree.

What’s pushing My buttons?

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  1. Janis, Sorry it took me a few days to get over here. What great suggestions! Isn’t it interesting how, when we are looking to God first, and when we’re seeking to live out His word, that He enables us to be more agreeable? My husband is a saint for some of what I have/haven’t (but should have) said. I’m thankful God has given us patient men. 🙂

    And the whole listening to God more than to myself—yes, that’s crucial, isn’t it?

  2. Well, I have been married for 30 years this year and just beginning to learn. I very rarely agree with my husband. It is a lot of humbling myself, biting my tongue, prayer and meditation on God’s word. It has been a hard road but we are still on it.

    1. Mary
      If I think back 16 years – yes that’s when I started to change. I gave my life to Christ. I read lots. I joined a Bible study. I saw myself as Christ saw me. I read How to Pray for your Husband by Stormie Ormatian. I thought I would change him. lol . I changed me.
      God can do it. His Word can do it.

  3. I think your tips are so useful, Janis. Marriage is very humbling. I’ve been married for almost 28 years and it definitely shows you your weaknesses. Being honest with ourselves is so important. Thanks for this.

    1. Jeannie,
      Thank you. Oh yes – a good marriage teaches humility to both partners, respect and encouragement too. Finding out who I was in Christ was my first step in making inroads to a wonderful marriage.

  4. I’ve been married for 31 years and truer words were never spoken! I love the reminder to be in the Word in order to curb what comes out of my mouth. I needed this today. Dawn 🙂

    1. Thanks Dawn,
      I need a constant reminder and reading through the Proverbs in our group has been wonderful to “hit me over the head” again. Bite my tongue and come at every conversation with peace.

  5. I love this post. I’ve found your thoughts to be true in my marriage. The more I spend time with God, the less likely I am to be disagreeable with my husband. Unfortunately, I don’t usually remind myself of the problem. Yet, truth is truth.

    1. Thank you so much,
      It’s hard in 5 minutes to get down the points. Hubby thinks I need to add an addendum from his point of view. What do you think? I have to remind myself each morning.

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