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Five Minute Friday: Regret

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This week the writer’s prompt from Five Minute Fridays is REGRET. We have 5 minutes to write what comes to us — quickly. Little editing. Just write.

Go: Clock is ticking

This post first published on Medium.com

I will admit I hate that word — regret. It has a negative tone and I am a positive person.

As I looked through Scripture I think God feels that way too. We are told many times to look forward, not behind. We press on, not look back. Even Lot and his family were told not to look back. Lot’s wife did — and she didn’t continue on.

“But Lot’s wife looked back, and she became a pillar of salt (Genesis 19:26, NIV).”

Therefore if we aren’t to look back what should we do? Look forward of course.

Consider this passage:

Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead (Philippians 3:13, NIV).

Do you hear that?

Forget what is behind and strain toward what is ahead.

That’s the way our walk with Christ should be. We won’t always do the right thing.

But we will continue on the path set before us.

“Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us (Hebrews 12:1, NIV).”

But how can we throw off everything that hinders us and the sin that entangles us?

And God shows us how. We know when we feel that aching in our souls when we know we are convicted of a sin. Don’t stay there. God is speaking to you. He will make you regret something and it must be cleansed immediately.

“For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart (Hebrews 4:12, NIV).”

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When we feel that conviction of our spirits we need to act.

And to act is to ask forgiveness for our sins. Don’t stay there stuck in the muck thinking about it. Do something.

A prayer of repentance is the door out of regret.

Knowing that Jesus died for our sins makes us realize that we have been forgiven and don’t need to wallow in the past. We have to let the past go. It doesn’t help us in our walk with God at all.

Jesus said: “It is finished.” He didn’t mean almost done, ready to be done or will be done.

He said, “It is done.”

Therefore are you letting regret grab hold of your life? Are you mulling around all the should haves? Well, STOP it right now. Jesus has paid the price and you are not thanking Him by thinking of the past.

Go on. Move forward.

Here is a prayer for releasing regret.

Lord Jesus, thank You for dying for my sins. I am so grateful that I can hardly understand it. You have washed away all that from my past and have wiped the slate. The tape is erased. I am new because of You, Jesus. Help me to move forward, beyond this moment of time into Your presence of light and joy. Help me be at peace because You have made the way for me to be free and live eternally with You. And today I know that there is something still I need to confess. I confess it now before you. …………………………….In Your Name, Jesus. Amen.

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Why are you poisoning yourself?

A lesson on forgiveness

I was hurt – very hurt. Someone had said an untruth that bothered me tremendously. I felt angry, betrayed and resentful. Everything I said and touched started to turn to stone. My heart became hardened. I wanted to feel the anger – conversations always led back to how hurt I felt. I knew it was wrong. I felt torn in two, worn out. I was stuck in “unforgiveness”.

What could I do?

I recall those feelings now. I don’t have them anymore. I was able to forgive and find peace.

How? How did I do that?

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Here are 6 things you need to know before you can start on the road to forgiveness.

  1. Let Go.

Yes Let go – Forgiveness means a decision to let go of resentment or anger. It does not mean a denial of what happened or that the act is justified.

But we need to LET GO.

How can we do that? Did you hear that the definition says that we don’t condone what was done? But we let go of it. It is something that will happen supernaturally as you follow through these steps. But you need to keep it in the front of your mind as I go through the steps. Remember Let Go.

2.  Ask yourself – What are the pitfalls of not forgiving?

You may ask what if I do forgive – how will that help me? I want to stay angry. I feel like I deserve the right to be angry.

I’ve been hurt and want to feel the pain.

My answer is, you do have that right to keep the anger. We have free will. But what does anger do to you – to your body, mind and soul. It does everything you don’t want it to do. It makes you sick. You may ache physically from tenseness. You may have headaches, fatigue, weight gain, weight loss, or depression. These are things that could happen if you keep the anger.

Listen to Proverbs 14:30 in The Message:

A sound mind makes for a robust body,

but runaway emotions corrode the bones.

That doesn’t sound too delightful does it? Corroding of the bones – brittle bones, disintegrating, useless.

3. Check out what you may be missing without forgiving.

There are good things that happen to you when you forgive. Besides better health your face changes, you smile more often. You see goodness around you (by the way it was there before).

And as a Christian how do we want others to see us – as angry, or as loving, peacemaking people? God wants us to forgive others and He says that unless we do so how will God forgive us of our sins (and we do have them, don’t we?).

Listen to Matthew 5:8 in The Message:

You’re blessed when you get your inside world – your mind and heart – put right. Then you can see God in the outside world.

We lose touch with God when our minds and hearts are out of whack. (Tweet this)

When we are fraught with anxiety, fear and anger we can’t find God.

“Unforgiveness” does that – it blocks the goodness around us.
It blocks our relationship with God.

4. Get Over Yourself and Think of Others

Be kind to your friends and become a loving person once again. If you are truthful you will hear how you are acting around others. Remember we all sin. So if someone has sinned against you – be a peacemaker and forgive them so that when the tables are turned you too will receive forgiveness.

 

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5. Don’t fret the small stuff

We are not perfect – not one of us.

How do you know when you are going to go down that path and do something to someone else? You may not even know it – and they might be upset with something you said and did. So really – don’t fret the small stuff. There are many other things that will happen and this area that is upsetting you now will seem trivial in the future. Remember the saying, Do under others as you would have them do to you.

 6. Ask God

This really should be step one but you had to find out why you needed to give up the “unforgiveness” before I gave you this step.

Ask God for help.

Yes He can’t change your emotions but He can help you change them, He can help you find peace, He can help you know Him and His ways which are higher than any other way.

If God says to do it – Do it. And do it right now.

Don’t wait because God says we are to do it right away – not to let the sun go down. Get rid of it – now. Ask God to help you get rid of this “unforgiveness” – and then release it to Him – right now.

Listen to Ephesians 4:26-27 from The Message:

Go ahead and be angry. You do well to be angry—but don’t use your anger as fuel for revenge. And don’t stay angry. Don’t go to bed angry. Don’t give the Devil that kind of foothold in your life.

I will be praying for everyone who is harbouring a grudge or living in an unforgiving state.

Give yourself a break and give it over to God.

May I pray for you and me?

Lord, this “unforgiveness” is one of the hardest things we face in our life here on earth. You talked about it in Your Word. You said we have to forgive. Period. So Lord I give over any feelings, emotions, or hardness of heart that I have resting in me. I ask You to cleanse me of all of it. Even the stuff I don’t know about. Give me a clean heart before you. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

Until next time read Colossians 3:13. Remember to bear with each other and let the world know we are Christians by our love for one another.

Other Resources to Help You

http://www.joycemeyer.org/articles/ea.aspx?article=the_poison_of_unforgiveness

The word forgive: Forgiveness can be defined as the decision to let go of resentment, anger, and thoughts of revenge as a result of a real, or perceived offense, hurt, or wrongdoing against you. Forgiving someone does not mean denying a person’s responsibility for hurting you, nor does it mean minimizing, or justifying the act. (http://www.essentiallifeskills.net/forgiveness-and-letting-go.html)

 

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SIMPLY SATURDAY – Forgiveness

Simply Saturday – Forgiveness

This is the day that I have given myself five minutes to write on a topic. Today I have chosen forgiveness.

I listen to John Maxwell ‘s daily one-minute talks. The other day he talked on forgiveness. I have put the link at he bottom of this post.

To me forgiveness is necessary to get close to God. As long as I harbour any resentment there is a barrier between us. I remember a passage in the Bible.

“For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you” (Matthew 6:14 NIV).

A friend of mine found herself in a situation that required her complete surrender to God. She knew she had found forgiveness from God. But she still had unforgiveness in her heart because of the circumstances that happened. When I told her that she needed to forgive those people who had wronged her – she said: “No”. It felt good to feel angry. But it destroyed the peace that she sought. When she decided to try to forgive them, it took much courage. The result startled her. In that act of forgiveness she felt a freedom she never had before and a peace that passeth all understanding.

My time is up.

How do you feel about forgiveness? Have you had a weight lifted from your shoulders when you decided to forgive someone?

John Maxwell – forgiveness