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Sunday Stillness – How to be an effective Overseer

Sunday Stillness – How to be an effective Overseer

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This week’s Scripture is Titus 1:7a. Using the SIMPLE method I will once again try to see where God leads me. Of course, I start with a prayer for God to open the Scripture to me.

S – Say the passage aloud.

Since an overseer is entrusted with God’s work, he must be blameless—not overbearing, not quick-tempered, not given to drunkenness (Titus 1:7a, NIV)

I – Identify the characters, the setting, and the circumstances surrounding this passage.

I looked up overseer and it said he was one who looked over the flock. Both Elders and Overseers need maturity and experience.

This sounds impressive. Once again the word, “blameless” is used.

I looked up the passage in The Message and “overbearing” translates as “pushy”.

M- Make a list of the thoughts, questions and ideas.

Am I overbearing? – sometimes. I get all worked up and sometimes I want something so badly I push it. There seems to be a fine line between being excited and visionary – and pushy. And my anger? Finally I think I can say that I have learned to get a handle on it.

P – Pray again for God’s guidance.

L- Life – How can I apply what I have been studying to my life?

Rethinking the overbearing and the anger issue – Ed Hird reminds me:

Rather than examine ourselves, anger always blames someone else (Restoring Health, page 36).

Ouch.

We see this in marriages, where thoughtless words are tossed out – and are then unrecoverable.

Thoughtless outbursts of anger are like toxic rain to marriages and family… A quick-tempered Christian is ‘out of control’ (Restoring Health, .ibid).

 

E – Exit the passage with a prayer for God to help you.

Thank you, Lord, for reminding me to watch my tongue and be slow to react. Thank you that we never used alcohol to try to solve our problems. May I learn to walk blameless, not be pushy or quick tempered. Instead may I look to You for the answers and please continue to grow me closer to You. In Jesus’ name. AMEN.

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Is God in the Clouds?

Is God in the Clouds?

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This morning the fog lay heavy. I couldn’t see very far out our window. Fog is a very heavy, low cloud isn’t it? But the picture about was another day – just plain cloudy but so beautiful with pink.

We talk about our walk with Jesus as being in the sun but sometimes it feels like we are in the clouds. There is murkiness in our thinking. We ask God to help clear our thinking. We ask Him to make it clear to us.

Oswald Chambers from July 29 says:

Through every cloud He brings He wants us to unlearn something.

Not to teach – but to unlearn. We have filled ourselves with stuff that God wants to wipe from our memory banks. He wants us to return to Him as a child.

Get rid of past hurts; get rid of fears; banish sorrows; push away anger.

Yes I guess those are unlearnings.

So when you see a cloud remember:

The clouds are a sign that He is there.

“They feared as they entered the cloud . . .” – Is there anyone “save Jesus only” in your cloud? If so, it will get darker; you must get to the place where there is “no one any more save Jesus only.”

Stand by your faith. Stand with Jesus.

CAN I DUMP MY ANGER?

After sharing a short testimony at a prayer time, Janis asked me to write a guest blog. I’m so happy to be able to share how God answered my prayer to conquer anger.

Each issue that causes us to nurture anger within is so similar in so many ways that to tell the specifics and cause isn’t necessary for this testimony. ~ Elizabeth.

We welcome this guest post from Elizabeth.

Can I Dump my Anger?

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by Elizabeth Michel

At first my anger and hurt came easily. It was delicious to unwrap yet another angle of what had happened and savour it. But after a few weeks, my mind became trained by repetition to constantly throw angry thoughts into its forefront. I couldn’t break the pattern and what was sweet had become bitter. My own thoughts were exhausting and repugnant to me but like a broken record they played over and over.

“But in my distress I cried out to the LORD; yes, I prayed to my God for help. He heard me from his sanctuary; my cry to him reached his ears” (Psalm 18:6 NLT).

Because God created me to be a visual artist, He knew what I needed. Just as I shut my eyes to pray again for help, God placed a simple image of a rain barrel in my mind that has helped me cope often since that day.

The outside of the barrel was a lovely turquoise but a look at its holdings revealed green sludge and algae. Full to the brim and ready to crack, the rain barrel symbolized me and the sludge within was my anger.

The barrel sat at the edge of a hill and I knew what I had to do. I pushed on the rain barrel as hard as I could while my frustration and tears slopped out and ran down. One more huge push toppled the barrel and the stagnant slime gushed down the hill, leaving me an empty vessel to be filled with greater care.

The scene reminded me of an illustration I had been working on from John Bunyan’s Pilgrim’s Progress. Find the illustration at www.intoabookbybee.com.

When Christian looked to the cross he finally lost his burden of sin as it rolled down the hill and into the sanctuary. We can echo Christian in his praise for the One who frees us from our binding sin when we look to the cross and ask.

Burden Relieved by Elizabeth Michel

Burden Relieved by Elizabeth Michel

“Thus far did I come loaden with my sin,
Nor could aught ease the grief that I was in,
Till I came hither. What a place is this?

Must here be the beginning of my bliss?
Must here the burden fall from off my back?
Must here the strings that bound it to me, crack?

Blessed Cross! Blessed Sepulchre! Blessed rather be
The man that there was put to shame for me.”

-Christian (in John Bunyan’s Pilgrim’s Progress)

Elizabeth is a visual artist who is striving to be more involved in the children’s book industry through illustrating and writing. She and her husband live in Port Perry, Ontario where she also enjoys oil painting during her downtime. Visit her sites at www.elizabethmichel.com  and   www.intoabookbybee.com

WHAT TRIGGERS YOUR EMOTIONS?

What Triggers Your Emotions?

What triggers your emotions?

by Jan Cox

When my husband and I took the boat out the last time this year, we noticed a number of “deadheads” in the water. Deadheads are logs that had sunk for many years but then lifted to the surface of the water. They lie just below the surface – very hard to see, but certainly not good for the boat or motor to hit.

There used to a sawmill on our lake and those logs are just starting to pop up. As these logs decompose they generate methane gas and when that gas reaches a certain level the logs rise in the water. When on top of the water the methane is released and the log sinks down again.

Sometimes  buoys are tied to help you see rocks under the surface but these deadheads move around and are hard to mark.

Think of yourself. Your emotions are under the surface – ready to come up to the surface. What triggers your emotions? They are like deadheads. Until they come to the surface no one can see them.

I am thinking of negative emotions for this post. Anger is an emotion that sits below the surface. Can you think of what triggers your anger? If so take a good hard look at it. Then pray for the Lord to help you overcome that and control that emotion when the trigger happens.

Here is a poem that I wrote a few weeks back when I felt overwhelmed one afternoon. I had done too much; rushed; and then tried to continue with more things on top of that.

Deadheads

Look at the time
PANIC
Thoughts fly in all directions
Don’t stop
Just continue to do – do – do
Everything at once.

Suddenly smell burnt beans
Yes I burned the beans
But no time to think
PANIC
Yell – frustrated.

S – T – O- P
Short prayer
Regroup

Reboil more beans
Watch the pot this time
Get ready
Relax

Apologize
Sit down to eat – say grace and thank You Lord
Rest and eat
Then

GO

Prayer:

Father I know my emotions can be triggered easily. Help me to see what triggers them and learn to control my emotions. In Jesus’ name. AMEN.

Continuing in the Count – Blessings to 2000

            • a great piano teacher
            • cutting down the nine barks in the garden
            • actually warm – 18 degrees
            • editing my media kit
            • playing different games with hubby
            •  vibrant colours of the trees

Fall in Haliburton

            • meeting people online
            • Bryce in the ball pit
            • oh the weather is awesome
            • helping in the garden
            • wonderful women at Bible Study
            • God speaking through His Word
            • Men of Integrity (new group in Haliburton) – 110 men attended the first meeting
            • Women’s Day Conference – Grow Up
            • friend comes to the conference

Friends

 

            • reacquaintance with Michelle Sim
            • memories of Deb Pugh – her laugh especially and her hugs – she always remembered my birthday day – now a book about her last months with cancer – Dear Deb by Margaret Terry

            • learning to still my thoughts before God
            • new words keep coming to me – buds, quicken, life – (you would think it was spring not fall)
            • a new era of hearing from God
            • Revival!
            • walk in the Sculpture Forest
            • good aching muscles
            • a friend who is stretching me 
            • working together

Kimberley, Jan and Janet

            • great contemporary service – The Instructions
            • thinking and thinking
            • deer for my guests
            • visit to my sister
            • seeing my niece and grandnephew
            • finding a good crockpot book
            • making a slow cooked recipe for oatmeal
            • playing with grandbaby at 6am
            • folded laundry
            • a print of a photo of butterflies from my daughter – awesome!

Beautiful print from my daughter – can’t capture the colours or sharpness.

            • a delicious crock pot dinner – healthy – did take a while to prepare
            • a big kiss from my grandbaby
            • peaceful drive home in the dark – through the trees – high beams illuminating the trees
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Janis Cox - Author and Illustrator

Jan, a former school teacher and small business owner, found a new passion in writing in her retirement. She has published two devotionals and a number of articles for magazines and a Bible study. She is owner of Under the Cover of Prayer and moderates the site. Jan has completed a children’s book called Tadeo Turtle. She is the watercolour illustrator. Word Alive will be publishing this story and it will be available October 2012. See more about Tadeo at Jan’s Website.

WHEN MY HEART IS WRONG

When My Heart is Wrong

By T. L. Wiens

The lack of love in the conversation hurt. I felt disrespected and the anger followed. It didn’t take long for my prayers to turn against this enemy.

And I could justify it. Didn’t some of the Psalms have this same tone? Psalm 59:1 says, “Deliver me from my enemies, Oh my God; defend me from those who rise up against me.”

I had an enemy that I needed protection from. Verse 5, says, “You therefore, O Lord God of hosts, the God of Israel. Awake and punish all the nations; Do not be merciful to any wicked transgressors.”

I was praying for what this enemy had coming.

Then I calmed down and realized I had no more love for my enemy than they for me. I was twisting scripture to my advantage. I prayed for forgiveness and changed my focus.

In Matthew, we are commanded to love our enemies. Beyond that, we are to “bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use and persecute you”( Matthew 5:44 NKJ).

I’m not going to say this is easy. It’s especially hard when the enemy is a fellow believer. But when I can start to pray in a loving way, I know my heart heals. I can leave the revenge to God’s complete discretion and walk in the knowledge that my Heavenly Father cares for His children.

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Tammy Wiens

Tammy lives in Saskatchewan with her husband. They have four children. She enjoys gardening, walks along the beach and being on the farm. She has a passion for her faith, studying the Bible and prayer.

She has published two books; Where a Little Rain Comes Down and Making the Bitter Sweet. A short story, “Vi’s First Christmas” will appear in Christmas Chaos coming out in October of 2010. Visit her website.